Fall in love for the 1st time and don't have any manual book to refer to? Or your relationship didn't work out as what you had planned to be so call "happily ever after" and don't know what are the causes of your break up? Or you wanna start a new relationship after so long being 'solo' and wondering whether you are fully, truly ready or not?Well hello~ hello~ hellooo~
Fear not, cause you have come to the right place where I'm gonna give you all some of the tips about the things that are needed in a successful relationship.
"Love is not enough. It must come in a package"
This is seriously, extremely, awesomely important. Even a married couple mostly facing difficulties to fulfill this requirement. Without trust, you will live in hesitate. If this happen, tell me dear readers, how can you ensure that you can be happy while you are having doubt with your partner? By feeling doubt, how can you ensure that your relationship is gonna work out? Yes bebeh, no way! In fact, if you have that doubt feeling from the start, yeah, when I said from the start, I'm really mean it, which is when the person confessed his/her feeling towards you, for sure you won't accept the proposal, right? And yes, there will be no relationship at all!! See, how important it is to have trust in a relationship? By having trust, the relationship initiates. It is like a pure light that shines the bond between you and your love ones. As long as there is still light (trust), there is still hope. Hope for? Well, for you and your partner to survive in whatever conditions that come to test you both and try to break the bond.TIP #2 : HONESTY
Whenever you have trust, you must have honesty. When your love ones trusts you, in return you must be honest with him/her. Hey, who said in a relationship you can have all the benefits, right? You must give and take. When you are taking the trust, you must also giving the honesty. How? Well by always tell the truth and never, ever, lied. Why? Once you lied, its hard for you to gain the trust from your partner back.
See? How important honesty in a relationship is! It acts like a resistance to whatever that try to put off the light (trust) that keep on shining the bond created by you and your partner.
TIP #3 : FAITHFUL
When you have trust and being honest, then you can go to the next level, which is being faithful. It is not hard to do, and also, not easy to maintain as people easily influence by their surrounding especially for those who are always socialize with their opposite sex. This is because, you may attracted to other person and thus cause you to fall for that person with or without you realize it and might end up being cheating. So how to be faithful? Simple, you must know where your limit and boundary when you are socialize with others. You must never go overboard even though you are just playing around and not serious with it. You may think it is a small issue since you are used to be with that kind of social life while you are single, but you must know, when you are in a relationship, it is no longer a small issue. Wonder why? Well your partner might get misunderstood and this could cause the small issue to become a big issue. Plus, it is unfair for your partner if he/she tries really hard not to make you jealous by controlling his/her social life. If you are not willing to control the way you socialize by reducing your limit and boundary, then you are just simply not ready to be in a relationship.
TIP #4 : UNDERSTANDING
Before you wanna do anything, put yourself in your soul mate's shoes, then you will know what will he/she feels bout your act. Maybe sad, frust, angry, jealous, stress, worried, happy or just simply don't care. If you don't like the feeling if the same thing happen to you, then you also shouldn't do the same thing to your love ones. Try to understand your partner, I'm not asking for a 100%, but at least you are trying to and will always try. From a different view, you must not be too sensitive and strict to your partner all the time, this could cause your partner to feel like being conquered and will make him/her stressed out. Try to understand his/her condition, schedule, social life, interest and others. When you understand even a small part of your partner, then you will know whether both of you are completing each other or not, suitable to live together till death do both of you apart. Try to understand him/her, then you will accept him/her as what he/she is. If you can't understand your partner, if you don't have the effort to try to understand your love ones, then your relationship is not and never gonna work out. Notice that, I used "can't understand" instead of "don't undertand". These two are very different in meaning, so don't get mixed up or confused.
TIP #5 : COMMITMENT
No matter how busy you are, try to give your commitment to your relationship. Ask if he/she is okay, ask his/her day, or just simply say 'hi' to show that you care. Spend time together even for a while. Don't make your love ones feels like being ignored. If he/she does, then you are in a big trouble! Cause he/she might feel lonely, sad, unwanted and end up being fed up. If you are busy or have anything urgent situation, tell or inform your partner 1st. If you are messaging or chatting with your partner, don't just leave him/her clueless if you have urgent thing to be settled. He/she might wait for you patiently, but who knows, mybe he/she is cursing you at the same time..hahahahaha.. If you cannot give your commitment fair enough, well it is still not too late for you to rearrange and improve your time management.
TIP #6 : DON'T FLIRT!
If you are a sweet talker, or like to flirt, now is the time for you to stop doing it to your opposite gender friends and save it for your special one. The reason is simple. If you do that to everyone you know, then it will no longer be special when you are with your special one. The romantic moment will be spoiled. It is like your partner is being at the same level with your other friends. And that is no good for your relationship. Put him/her at a higher level, treat him/her differently from the others, make him/her feels special.
TIP #7 : RESPECT
Have sense of respect. Respect your partner's feelings, by not doing anything that might hurt this/her heart. Respect your partner's opinions, by listening to them even though you don't agree, but try to consider cause he/she only wanted the best for you. Respect his/her interests, by not controlling him/her from doing what he/she likes instead, give your full support to your love ones. Respect the time that both of you have, by cherishing every little moment. If you want to be respected by your partner, you have to do the same thing too.
TIP #8 : TOLERANT
When you are having a fight, be tolerate. If you are the cause of the fight, give your explanation and apologize instead of make things go even worse. Never be shy or too ego to say that you are sorry. If your partner is the cause, then be good enough to listen to the explanation, consider the situation, and save your relationship by accept the apology. You might as well give some advice to your love ones so that he/she will never repeat the same mistakes again. Don't put more burden on him/her, cause nobody's perfect. Plus, be more sensitive towards the changes in your partner's feelings and mood, and be caring enough to ask.
TIP #9 : NO SECRETS!
If you have problems, make sure that your love ones be the 1st person you are sharing with, maybe after your parents. Don't let him/her knows your problems from others, this might cause him/her feeling yourself. Share them, let him/her knows if he/she makes some mistakes, or how you feel, then both of you can come out with better solutions. By doing this, both of you will be more appreciate and understand each other. If not, your partner might sense that there is something fishy bout you.
TIP # 10 : SUPPORTIVE AND CARING
Always be there whenever he/she needs you. When your partner is sharing something with you, spend some time and listen. Don't ignore him/her since he/she is one of your priority, right? Give advises, or share your or your friends' experiences if it suits and suitable and can solve his/her problem. Show that you care enough by being with your love ones in sadness, hardness, toughness and happiness or on any or every situations, make sure that he/she knows that he/she can count on you and will never face anything alone.
TIP #11 : PROMISES
Don't just simply make promises if you are unsure that you can make it to a reality. You don't know your future, if you break your promises, this surely will hurt your love one's heart deeply. Just enjoy what you have now, appreciate and hope that it will last forever.
TIP #12 : BE SERIOUS
A relationship will go no further if you are not serious. Be mature, think maturely. Learn and study from the others who failed in their relationship and don't copy their mistakes. Be a good observant. If not, it is such a waste of time.
Lastly but not least....
TIP #13 : PRAY
Yes, pray that you and your love ones will live happily ever after till death do both of you apart, temporarily. WHAT, TEMPORARILY? Well yes! If you really, really, extremely, awesomely, truly in love with a person, for sure you wanna live with him/her longer than forever in this world and also in jannah, insyaAllah. Never be too shy to say your love ones' name in your prayer as He listens to every word from you.
Well I think thats all. If there are still others that i forgot to include, well, they can still be inserted into any of the 13 categories above. So all the best for my dear readers. Relationship is no picnic, you really have to work hard, smart and serious with it.
Before you wanna do anything, put yourself in your soul mate's shoes, then you will know what will he/she feels bout your act. Maybe sad, frust, angry, jealous, stress, worried, happy or just simply don't care. If you don't like the feeling if the same thing happen to you, then you also shouldn't do the same thing to your love ones. Try to understand your partner, I'm not asking for a 100%, but at least you are trying to and will always try. From a different view, you must not be too sensitive and strict to your partner all the time, this could cause your partner to feel like being conquered and will make him/her stressed out. Try to understand his/her condition, schedule, social life, interest and others. When you understand even a small part of your partner, then you will know whether both of you are completing each other or not, suitable to live together till death do both of you apart. Try to understand him/her, then you will accept him/her as what he/she is. If you can't understand your partner, if you don't have the effort to try to understand your love ones, then your relationship is not and never gonna work out. Notice that, I used "can't understand" instead of "don't undertand". These two are very different in meaning, so don't get mixed up or confused.
TIP #5 : COMMITMENT
No matter how busy you are, try to give your commitment to your relationship. Ask if he/she is okay, ask his/her day, or just simply say 'hi' to show that you care. Spend time together even for a while. Don't make your love ones feels like being ignored. If he/she does, then you are in a big trouble! Cause he/she might feel lonely, sad, unwanted and end up being fed up. If you are busy or have anything urgent situation, tell or inform your partner 1st. If you are messaging or chatting with your partner, don't just leave him/her clueless if you have urgent thing to be settled. He/she might wait for you patiently, but who knows, mybe he/she is cursing you at the same time..hahahahaha.. If you cannot give your commitment fair enough, well it is still not too late for you to rearrange and improve your time management.
TIP #6 : DON'T FLIRT!
If you are a sweet talker, or like to flirt, now is the time for you to stop doing it to your opposite gender friends and save it for your special one. The reason is simple. If you do that to everyone you know, then it will no longer be special when you are with your special one. The romantic moment will be spoiled. It is like your partner is being at the same level with your other friends. And that is no good for your relationship. Put him/her at a higher level, treat him/her differently from the others, make him/her feels special.
TIP #7 : RESPECT
Have sense of respect. Respect your partner's feelings, by not doing anything that might hurt this/her heart. Respect your partner's opinions, by listening to them even though you don't agree, but try to consider cause he/she only wanted the best for you. Respect his/her interests, by not controlling him/her from doing what he/she likes instead, give your full support to your love ones. Respect the time that both of you have, by cherishing every little moment. If you want to be respected by your partner, you have to do the same thing too.
TIP #8 : TOLERANT
When you are having a fight, be tolerate. If you are the cause of the fight, give your explanation and apologize instead of make things go even worse. Never be shy or too ego to say that you are sorry. If your partner is the cause, then be good enough to listen to the explanation, consider the situation, and save your relationship by accept the apology. You might as well give some advice to your love ones so that he/she will never repeat the same mistakes again. Don't put more burden on him/her, cause nobody's perfect. Plus, be more sensitive towards the changes in your partner's feelings and mood, and be caring enough to ask.
TIP #9 : NO SECRETS!
If you have problems, make sure that your love ones be the 1st person you are sharing with, maybe after your parents. Don't let him/her knows your problems from others, this might cause him/her feeling yourself. Share them, let him/her knows if he/she makes some mistakes, or how you feel, then both of you can come out with better solutions. By doing this, both of you will be more appreciate and understand each other. If not, your partner might sense that there is something fishy bout you.
TIP # 10 : SUPPORTIVE AND CARING
Always be there whenever he/she needs you. When your partner is sharing something with you, spend some time and listen. Don't ignore him/her since he/she is one of your priority, right? Give advises, or share your or your friends' experiences if it suits and suitable and can solve his/her problem. Show that you care enough by being with your love ones in sadness, hardness, toughness and happiness or on any or every situations, make sure that he/she knows that he/she can count on you and will never face anything alone.
TIP #11 : PROMISES
Don't just simply make promises if you are unsure that you can make it to a reality. You don't know your future, if you break your promises, this surely will hurt your love one's heart deeply. Just enjoy what you have now, appreciate and hope that it will last forever.
TIP #12 : BE SERIOUS
A relationship will go no further if you are not serious. Be mature, think maturely. Learn and study from the others who failed in their relationship and don't copy their mistakes. Be a good observant. If not, it is such a waste of time.
Lastly but not least....
TIP #13 : PRAY
Yes, pray that you and your love ones will live happily ever after till death do both of you apart, temporarily. WHAT, TEMPORARILY? Well yes! If you really, really, extremely, awesomely, truly in love with a person, for sure you wanna live with him/her longer than forever in this world and also in jannah, insyaAllah. Never be too shy to say your love ones' name in your prayer as He listens to every word from you.
Well I think thats all. If there are still others that i forgot to include, well, they can still be inserted into any of the 13 categories above. So all the best for my dear readers. Relationship is no picnic, you really have to work hard, smart and serious with it.
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